When a person is fat they’re meant to live in the future, diet ads and the diet industry create this future centric-goal-centric self and existence. We’re kind of told as women that we can live once we’re thin, we can love we can have sex, wear bikinis, go horseback riding. Once we’re thin and there’s that conditional cause. So fat women are meant to live in the future and it creates a sense of disembodiment which isn’t great for a person’s sexuality when it comes to pleasure and also isn’t great when it comes to safer sex and communication. If a person enters a sexual situation where they feel they’re at a disadvantage, you’re less likely to negotiate your needs in terms of pleasure and health. —
-Virgie Tovar, personal interview, January 2012 (via invertandcrush)
I lived this way for a very long time, basically putting off my life until my diet got me the results I needed to live ‘normally’. What a fucked up and unhealthy mindset. Live for now.
It’s all you have.
I’ve just been asked how someone can tell if their exercising is healthy or not:
- You don’t NEED to work out for any more than 30 minutes 5 times a week. That’s 2.5 hours in a week. Apparently just 15 minutes activity a day is enough to lower the risks of various health problems. So that’s the first thing - anything above 2.5 hours a week is more than is needed, so you would need to think about why you’re doing more. The only really legitimate reason I can think of for doing more where an ED is concerned is if you’re training for a sports event, or it’s part of your job.
- Exercise shouldn’t be the most important thing. If someone asks you to the cinema or to a party, or if you have an exam to revise for, or if you need to do your food shop, then it would be normal and healthy for you to skip your workout and NOT worry about fitting it in at a different time. ESPECIALLY late at night or early in the morning.
- Be very aware of you changing your routine excessively to fit in exercise. If you’re suddenly unable to go to bed until you’ve done the “correct” amount of activity then you’ve got a problem.
- What does your 2.5 hours of exercise look like? This quota (recommended by various governments) states that you should BE ACTIVE for this period of time. That doesn’t mean trying to run a marathon every week, or attending 3 spin classes. going out with friends and dancing counts. Walking the dog counts. If you walk to school or work, that counts. This is all added in to your 2.5 hours per week, NOT as well as.
- Why are you exercising? Bad reasons if you have a history of ED include:
- to burn calories
- to lose weight
- to change the way your body looks
- to ease guilt
You will need to be very honest with yourself about why you want to exercise. The above reasons only enable your disorder by keeping an emphasis on your body. Good reasons to exercise include:
- Better sleep due to your body being tired. (not due to eased guilt / anxiety.)
- So you don’t feel out of breath when doing day to day things such as running for a bus.
- to release endorphins which improve mood.
- to be sociable. (walking / dancing with a friend for example.)
Some practical tips to help avoid exercise obsession include:
- Exercise with another person who knows about your ED and will tell you when enough is enough.
- Set yourself a limit and NEVER go over it.
- Sign up to a class once or twice a week and make that your only exercise.
- Turn off the calorie / distance counter on gym equipment.
I hope this is helpful!
Don’t think or judge. Just listen. — Sarah Dessen (via onlinecounsellingcollege)
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Anonymous asked: Hi! Out of curiosity, is there a good type of yoga for someone overweight? What positions should I be trying to do? I ask because my mother and sister enjoy yoga but it really hurts my knees and back, and I struggle through every position, and even can't do some of the most basic ones.
Theres no shame in doing modified poses until you are flexible enough to do them all the way :) Many people, not just people who are overweight, struggle with poses in the beginning and thats okay! It takes time to gain flexibility. Here are some beginners poses and links to plus sized yoginis:
Buy a notebook.
Google for inspiring quotes.
Reflect on them.
Collect your favourites.
Write them into your notebook and add stickers and anything else that brightens things up.
You need to take an active role in your recovery. Recovery won’t fall from the sky. It’s a day by day battle to change the way we think. and thus the way we behave.
Remember, thoughts—-> feelings—-> behaviour
So consider this your recovery homework: Start the quote journal. Collect quotes on all sorts of things. Read them when you’re feeling negative.
I google for quotes on:
The quotes don’t have to be written by famous people. Nope. If you hear yourself say something that inspires you, then add it to the journal.
If you hear your friends, or fellow freedom-fighters saying something very inspiring, then jot it down in your quote journal.
But the number one rule is: Enjoy it. This is a fun thing to do! Don’t ruin it with pressure. There’s no pressure. This is something you could do, but you don’t have to do.
Here’s some websites to get you started:
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