1. Try and determine where the drive for perfectionism came from. Was it from demanding teachers? Or parents who it was impossible to please? Then remind yourself that there is no law anywhere that says you must be perfect. Because you’re human you’re bound to make mistakes – and that’s OK.
2. Examine the logic behind your belief – then remind yourself of “reality”. Often we have higher standards for ourselves than we have for other people. Remind yourself that learning is a process and no-one, NO-ONE is perfect on this earth.
3. Look at what the benefits and costs are from having such a high, and unreachable, standard. On balance, is it good for you or bad for you? What do you gain and what do you lose?
4. Make a list of your perfectionist thoughts and then challenge them on paper. For example, “I should have done better on that test” could be replaced by “I would like to have done better – but that’s just life” – and usually your intense emotions will subside.
5. Remind yourself that it’s your best that matters – and life is a journey, and not a race.
*whispers* You can be mature and respectful and still have a dirty sense of humour.
*murmurs* You can curse a lot and still be highly intelligent with a massive vocabulary.
*mumbles* You can be quiet and reserved and still be witty and even outgoing in certain circles.
Yes, hello? I am all the thing written here. All the thing.
Sugar-free Blueberry Muffins!
I found this little recipe on the internet, and I tried it and LOVED it. They’re easy to make, and at around 71 calories per muffin, definitely a healthy breakfast choice!
- 1 1/2 cup flour
- 3/4 cup Splenda
- 2 tsp baking powder
- 1 tsp baking soda
- 1/2 tsp salt
- 2/3 cup plain fat-free yogurt
- 2/3 cup water
- 3/4 cup blueberries (or some other fruit of your choosing)
Preheat oven to 400F. Combine dry ingredients, then add water and yogurt. Mix, then add the blueberries and stir carefully, making sure not to crush the berries. Grease muffin cups, or put paper cups in, and fill 3/4 of the way. Bake for approx. 18 minutes.
Recovery is hard. It’s a challenge in college, high school, younger years, at work, on vacation, during the night, right in the morning, anywhere and everywhere. BUT here’s the good news: every day we fight, we grow stronger. No matter where we are on the journey, we are worth the fight.
Incase you have not heard these words today, or lately:
- You are beautiful.
- I am so proud of you.
- You deserve to be happy.
- You can do it.
- You are not alone.
- I love you.
- Your OTP will become canon.
The last one
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